Give the Best for Valentine’s Day

February is almost upon us, which means there are just about two more weeks left before Valentine’s Day! If you are looking for something to get your special someone, why not let our friends at EdenFantasys help you out with some gift ideas. From the hundreds of sex toys that are available on their site, they have come up with the Best of 2011. We think it is a pretty good list!

Some of our favorites made this list, including the venerable Hitachi Magic Wand and the ultra awesome nJoy Pure Wand. If you are ready to show the one you love that they are REALLY special, you cannot go wrong with these wonderful wands. The Hitachi will blow their mind with its amazing vibrations (which are capable of getting those of us with penises off as well), and the nJoy will reach all the right places.

Of course if your relationship isn’t quite ready for high-end sex toys, there is always the wonderfully romantic KNEAD ME MASSAGE SET from JimmyJane. This set is just the thing to help you get in touch with your more sensitive sides. And if things work out well, a littleSYSTEM JO H2O LUBE will make sure everything else goes super smoothly.

Then again, maybe you plan on spending the night by yourself. In that case a little self-loving may be in order. And if self-loving is on your dance card, a good movie like the exciting fast-paced action of Speed will get your heart racing and your juices flowing. And, depending on your plumbing, the Ella dildo or the Fleshlight STU Masturbator is all you will need to rock your world.

However you plan to spend your holiday, we hope it is safe and happy.



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Get your Peg On!

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and you know what that means…..it is time start looking for that sexy gift to give your lover. This is that one time of year, in fact, that you have complete permission to maybe push beyond the normal boundaries of your relationship and suggest something a little more that what is expected or considered safe. For us, it seems like the perfect time to introduce a little PEGGING into your relationship!



We have a few tips if you are new to pegging. First, make sure you have a LOT of lube on hand. For us, because we play mostly with silicone toys, it needs to be water-based. Second, start small, but not too small; the peggee needs to be able to feel it in order to enjoy it. Third, make sure you are talking. If it is a concern, PEGGING WON’T MAKE YOU GAY! (and seriously, there is NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING GAY, BI, or OPEN TO THE POSSIBILITIES!!). Fourth, don’t be afraid to have fun! Harnesses, for one, are hard to put on (for the most part….see our upcoming piece on the RodeoH harnesses for something that is really easy to get on!) and you have to be able to laugh about it. Finally, manage your expectations and don’t think you have to get it right the first time. After all, how many really great things were perfect the first time you tried it?



We also have a few thoughts in regard to buying your first harness. Quality is important, but so is price. We don’t suggest breaking the bank the first time out of the gate. There are a lot of decent nylon harnesses out there that will serve the purpose long enough to decide whether you want to be living the Pegging Life. Many of these harnesses come with a dildo as a set. We recommend getting a set that comes with a silicone dildo. If you and your lover enjoy pegging, a silicone dildo is safe and will last much longer. If, however, pegging is not for you, a good silicone dildo can always serve other purposes once properly cleaned. When you decide to upgrade harnesses, you really can’t beat a Joque or a Theo for comfort, wearability, and durability or a RodeoH for that anywhere/anytime spontaneity some lovers crave.

EdenFantasys is your one-stop shop for all of your Valentine’s Day gift giving needs. Whether you are looking for a strap-on harness and dildo set or something sexy to wear, they have you covered. They also carry a full line of sexy costumes if you want to get a little dressed up. And of course, they have all the Sex Toys you could want to play long into the night.







As always you can use Coupon Code ‘SMK’ during checkout to save 15% off your non-sale items. Also, your order always ships free if you purchase more than $59.00 worth of merchandise after any discounts.



Have fun and play safely!









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What happens when your dad finds your dildo....

Sometime after my first trip to San Francisco to buy my first dildo and harness, and before I had the opportunity to use it (or have it used in me), I ended up back on active duty in the Army.

Although my first wife and I had been separated for nearly 18 months, we were, officially at least, still married. As a married service member I was entitled to some benefits, one of which was moving my household goods from my apartment in upstate New York to my new duty station in DC. The problem was my reporting date was sooner than I could possibly get into an apartment. My solution was to pack all my stuff in boxes, put them in storage, and have my father sign the papers when the movers came to pick them up. Deep inside one of these boxes, my dildo and harness were carefully packed. It seemed like a good idea at the time.

The problem with military moves is that they are extremely careful about what they take and how it is packed. No firearms. No fireworks. No toys with batteries. There is not, thankfully, a restriction on dildos and harnesses. There is, however, the matter of liability. In an effort to mitigate this liability, unless you sign a waiver, they are going to repack your boxes. I wasn’t there to sign. My father didn’t see the harm in them repacking everything. The movers repacked….everything.

You can imagine my surprise when my goods arrived in boxes that were quite different than the boxes I had used. And then you can imagine my horror at realizing that there were things I didn’t want movers, or my dad, poking through. A few pornos, a couple of books of erotica, and a Cybergasm CD were all normal enough. A seven inch lavender silicone cock and a leather harness….well that might have seemed a bit odd.

Fortunately the inventory upon receiving the goods does not have to be done with the movers. You have some time to go through your boxes on your own to make sure everything is accounted for and in the same condition it was in when they “packed you out.” I eventually found my box of treasures with all my sexy stuff in it. I think they were labeled “personal items” but I can’t quite remember. All I know is that they were packed just as carefully as everything else: wrapped in blank newsprint and tucked safely in a box. There was no outward indication that these items were any different than a Waterford vase or my human skull replica; just my stuff, and well-packed. Thank you Allied movers.

My parents are not the most sex positive people in the world. Actually strike that, my father is not a sex positive person. My mother is, well, his polar opposite. That’s probably why they divorced.

The first vibrator I ever saw was hers, found in a drawer while looking for ribbon. It was her “The Joy of Sex” that gave me the most incredible orgasm of my young life. It was she who found me in her bed with a friend when she came home early to the apartment we were renting in Arizona during my teens. She walked in the room, looked at the two of us, allowed us the chance to uncouple and said, “Whose your friend?”

“Uh, this is Stephanie.”

“Hi, Stephanie, I’m Christine,” she said extending her hand for a shake. Then she left and presumably spent the night at a friend’s because I didn’t see her again until the next day when we were set to make the 3 hour drive to Phoenix. That drive was excruciating. I was waiting for the talk. The talk my dad, who I lived with nearly full-time would have given me. Never once did she mention it. That doesn’t make her cool, or my favorite, it just makes her sex positive.

My dad, on the other hand, found my condoms in a bracelet box behind my headboard and cut them in half. He also left a note: “When you think you are ready to be a father, come talk to me!” Now I had been raised Catholic and I know they have some unusual ideas about condom use, but I thought it was universally accepted that condoms were designed to prevent fatherhood. In fact, it is that very characteristic that made condoms so evil in the first place! I don’t know what bothered me more, the fact that I didn’t have any condoms or that my dad was an idiot. Either way, it didn’t stop us from fucking; it just increased our risks dramatically.

It was this same guy, who I do love dearly, who probably found my dildo and harness. Of course, there was the possibility that the packers tried to shield him from this. I am sure this was not the first time movers came across some sex paraphernalia during a “packing out.” (In fact, when the movers my employer recently hired came to move our stuff they asked what our sex swing stand was. “It’s gym equipment.” That’s what she put on the box. I am sure I didn’t fool anyone!) I was, however, sure that this was the first time my father had been exposed to a strapon cock in his son’s personal goods.

This all happened in early spring. I didn’t get back home to New York again until July 4th. My father and I talked quite a few times in the interim and for the first dozen or so times I was waiting for him to bring it up. He never said a thing. I guess, had he had the opportunity, he might have slipped a note inside the box: “When you think you are ready to get bent over, come see me!” Okay, maybe that would be creepy. Eventually I decided that he never saw the dildo and harness. The movers shielded him from this discovery, and it would never come up because he didn’t know anything about it. Again, it seemed reasonable at the time.

During my trip home for the Fourth, my father cornered me in his kitchen. He had the home turf advantage. He started asking some bizarre questions about why my first wife and I split up, most of which were aimed at her sexuality in very tangential ways. He wouldn’t come right out and ask, but it was clear where he was going: did she leave me for another woman. No, Dad, she did not leave me for another woman.

I clearly had him satisfied, or at least convinced, that I didn’t have a strapon because my ex-wife was a lesbian (again, flawed logic is a running theme). It was then that my father started on a whole other trajectory. Mind you, he has not mentioned the existence of the strapon; but it was clear he knew I owned it and he was set on getting an answer. His line of questioning then turned to …. his recent prostate exam! Did I know that it wasn’t horrible? It actually made him feel good in a weird way which was terribly embarrassing but, had I ever heard of this? His urologist said it was okay. It wasn’t like he was gay just because it felt funny. Did I know this? The prostate could be a source of pleasure? Was I aware?

This was the most sex talk I had ever had with my dad. It was this weird beating around the bush with him trying to find out why I had a silicone dick in my boxes without ever really talking about it. This went on for at least 30 minutes. I didn’t cop to it during the interrogation and he never brought it up again. That time in his kitchen has always weighed heavy on me. We were so close to actually talking about something and yet both of us couldn’t bring ourselves to actually address it. So here it is: DAD, I TAKE GREAT PLEASURE FROM YOUR DAUGHTER-IN-LAW STRAPPING ON A COCK AND FUCKING ME UP THE ASS.

Wow, that was easy!

clone it

***Pegging is the sexual act of a woman using a strapon dildo to anally penetrate her male partner.***

More than just a review of the First Mate Silicone Dildo...

A few weeks ago I had the opportunity to be out on the West Coast for business. I haven’t been to California in years and I have long been lamenting the fact that I can’t shop at Good Vibrations, the friendliest sex boutique on the planet (see First Steps….). I live in Florida and we have lots of Adam & Eve shops at our disposal. While nice enough and well-stocked, they just aren’t the same. Good Vibrations is, however, a destination of choice simply because it is Good Vibrations. I was hoping that I might squeeze in the 100+ mile drive to San Francisco from my hotel in Monterey. Of course, any trip to Good Vibrations wouldn’t be complete without a stop at Stormy Leather as well. I was very excited when, on Thursday, it looked like I might be able to wrap things up on Friday and free up at least half of my afternoon.

By about 2:30, I was mapping out my route. It turns out, much to my chagrin; Stormy Leather is closed while they search for a new location. Apparently the search hasn’t been going so well. What I found out was that at the Valencia Street store they were participating in the Mission District Holiday Block Party. They would be serving wine and chocolate as well as offering a 15% discount on all purchases. It’s not as if I needed a lure to get me to the shop; this was just a nice extra bonus. At the Polk Street store they were having an art show and, unbeknownst to me at the time, a discussion panel on the DVD release of An Open Invitation: A Real Swinger’s Party in San Francisco. I decided to go to both stores. After all, it’s been a long, long time.

If you have never been to a Good Vibrations store, you should go. No caveats given. You should go. Make a point of it. Plan a vacation around it. Heck, plan a business trip around going to Good Vibrations. Put it on your bucket list, but get there before you are too old to enjoy it, and that can be a very ripe old age!

The two stores I visited are quite different even if they are less than 2.5 miles apart. The Valencia Street store, which I visited first, is a neighborhood store. It is unassuming, sex-positive and as comfortable as clam chowder in a sourdough bowl and an Anchor Steam. The Polk Street Store is a little higher end. Different neighborhood…different clientele, I guess. Plus, I hear, they get a few more tourists on Polk Street. Don’t get me wrong, Polk Street is everything Valencia Street is, except more polished.

When I got to the Valencia Street store I took my time wandering about. I had the rare pleasure of getting to pick up some toys that I have just been seeing online. One such toy was the Cobra Libre Stimulator for Men, something that once you do put your hands on it you are really going to want to play with it. The other great thing about Good Vibrations is that you can really explore your dildo selection. After judging size, length, girth and color, I settled on the First Mate Silicone Dildo. Of course, like the last time I was there, a very friendly, non-threatening and knowledgeable salesperson was there to answer any question I might have. And I had some chocolate, but no wine because I was driving.

When I got to the Polk Street store the ticketed panel discussion was going on in the room where the art exhibit was also being displayed. I decided to wait the 20 minutes until they were finished. It gave me more time to look around the store and explore the book selection. After the discussion let out people were moving in and out of the space in the back cleaning up and talking with one another. Because the gathering was ticketed, I felt awkward going in there until things settled down. However, after another 20 minutes I asked a salesperson if she thought it would be okay if I went back there. She said absolutely telling me there was no need to have waited as long as I did.

Once in the back, I was more interested in photographs of the early gay rights movement in San Francisco than the art show. I was, however, most interested in a person who was moving about. I had the pleasure of meeting Carol Queen and having the opportunity to thank her for all that she has done in the name of sex education, equality, and, in our case, introducing us to the Pegging Life. It was brief, but it really was a fantastic experience for me. I am very grateful for the few minutes of her time that she gave me. Forget meeting Mickey Mantle, I’ll take Carol Queen any day!! On my way out, I grabbed a set of Butterfly Nipple Clamps.

My trip to San Francisco, in spite of the nasty traffic on the way there and the downpour on the way back was well worth the effort. My only regret is that I had to go without Mrs. Peg. I got some great toys, I visited the best walk-in sex toy shops in the world, and I got to meet an icon in the world of sex play. If you ever have the opportunity, take it. If the opportunity doesn’t come up organically, create it. You will not regret a trip to Good Vibrations!



The First Mate Silicone Dildo is 7 inches long and 1.5 inches in diameter. Ours is jet black with a matte finish. It is absolutely gorgeous in our SpareParts Hardware Theo harness. The size of this cock is perfect for sucking and for pegging. It is big enough to say, “Wow, what a big cock you have!” but not so big that as to make you say, “Yikes! What a big cock you have!” It has a pronounced head and raised veins which 1) make it look very real and 2) make it feel absolutely fantastic during insertion and even better during thrusting.

The First Mate Dildo is made out of high quality silicone. This is, once again, our favorite material for pegging toys. While there are other non-porous toys out there, none of them can beat the flexibility and comfort of silicone while you are getting pegged. Having a steel or glass plug up your ass is one thing. But when there is thrusting involved, especially vigorous thrusting, having a material that gives a little is absolute essential for the comfort of the peggee. The First Mate has supplanted our other dildos as our First Choice!! I’d love to say I have seen An Open Invitation: A Real Swinger’s Party in San Francisco or played with the Cobra Libre Stimulator for Men, but I haven’t. No review yet, but maybe in the future. As for those Butterfly Nipple Clamps…..don’t let the name fool you. They should be called Eagle Talon Clips or HOLY SHIT! Nipple Clips. They have a VERY firm grip. I can wear them; Mrs. Peg cannot. I guess I am just a glutton for punishment at times…that, and my nipples are a lot smaller!

So here is the review: Good Vibrations is awesome and you should go. The First Mate Silicone Dildo is incredible and the perfect choice for a pegging dildo. The Cobra Libre Stimulator for Men looks like fun and I WANT TO PLAY WITH IT!! An Open Invitation: A Real Swinger’s Party in San Francisco looks like a good video. Given that many of the actors were at the panel discussion and I got to observe them interacting with each other, I would say there is, at the very least, a lot of chemistry in the film. Finally, the Butterfly Nipple Clamps are a good grab….I mean that literally. They will grab your nipples really, really well. The choice as to whether or not that is a good thing is yours. Our review of the SpareParts HardWare’sTheo is posted here.

Have fun, and start planning that next trip!!



*****WE BOUGHT THE FIRST MATE AND THE NIPPLE CLAMPS WITH COLD HARD CASH…OKAY…A CREDIT CARD BUT WE PAID OFF THE BALANCE SO…NO FTC DISCLAIMER!!!******

***Pegging is the sexual act of a woman using a strapon dildo to anally penetrate her male partner.***

NOT for the Faint of Heart! (But a damned good film)

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